When I walked out of a hotel room having contemplated taking my life the night before I knew something had to change – and that something was me. I went home that day and spoke to my wife and explained how I wanted to go on a journey of self-discovery and personal development. I spoke about writing down my thoughts, finding out what was holding me back and why I was so hard on myself. I promised her we would never be back in this position again.
The following morning my wife & kids gave me a gift – this notepad and coffee cup. She told me to believe in myself and invest time in myself. That morning I went for a walk ALONE on the beach close to my home. I sat on a rock, opened the notepad, and began writing – the first thing I wrote were the words to this poem.
I knew then I would overcome what was holding me back - ME. And I know you can too – it’s time to change the story we tell ourselves.
Believe in yourself. Invest in yourself.
Thanks for being here. My purpose in life is to empower people to see their greatness, help them with their Personal Development and change their lives. All too often the feelings we get off a lack of self-worth, being directionless & suffering is a mental block we have unconsciously placed in front of ourselves & this holds us back from living our lives and being happy. I hope to change peoples mindset and give them the motivation to look to the future!
I was raised by mother and father and lived in 3-bedroom house with my 3 brothers and sister. As a child I struggled with my own self-worth, fixed mindset & limiting beliefs.
This carried on throughout my teenage years and into adulthood. I suffered badly from negative self-talk but in order to survive these years I became someone else – a version of me who on the outside was brave & confident, but on the inside I was scared and filled with self-loathing. I worked in sales and made a good career for myself. As I built my career, I always had a feeling of “I am going to be found out”, this was imposter syndrome. I married my childhood sweetheart Michaela & we have 3 amazing kids.
In May 2017 my father passed away from cancer after a 4-year battle. This was a difficult time which lead me to my breaking point. In August 2017 I thought about taking my life, but thankfully I reached out for help. This became my greatest turning point.
During the years of my father’s illness I had been pushing my own family away, to the point I could have lost them and everything I had – I had to make a change for me and my family. I started to get into personal development growth.
I quickly realised I had a great understanding of the mind and how I could change my life. From there I started to build true self love and self-worth. My whole life transformed and so did my families. I rebuilt both my mind and my life by chaning my mindset.
The longest journey is the 13 inches between the head and the heart, but once we start to listen to the heart the head will follow. I realised I could help others with my knowledge and all the things I had once been ashamed off were lessons I learnt to help others.
As I walked along the beach in my hometown of Newcastle Co Down, I flipped my camera phone and began talking about my journey – this was the beginning.
I started to make videos, go on podcasts and talk at speaking events for businesses and charities. I left my corporate job and the “security” it gave me to start my own Personal Development coaching business. I had finally found my true path and that is what I will help you do.
My client’s lives have been transformed. This is just the beginning – my life’s mission is to help as many people as possible break free from their suffering. I would love you to join me on this journey, and I hope to impact you in a positive way.